We met with our social worker last night, as I mentioned in this post.
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First of all:
This was our fourth visit with a social worker regarding adoption. Each one gets a little less scary. So know that if you are facing the process for the first time, these are people who want to see children placed in loving homes. They're on your side. They're an advocate for you! Don't be intimidated. Don't freak out. Your house doesn't have to be perfect (we still have moving boxes sitting in the living room). Your hair doesn't have to be perfect. YOU do not have to be perfect.
Rant over, just wanted to put that out there.
If nothing else, maybe I'll re-read that someday when we're going through this again and remember to relax!
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Last night was great!!
Rachel, our social worker, came in the evening and went over some paperwork, toured our home, asked and answered some questions and then told us that all we have left to do now is send in the hard copies of our profile (our agency asks for 30 copies) with another check and we will be officially-for-real-no-more-hoops "circulating"!!!
Circulating is another way of saying "on the list".
Here's how it works:
Birthmoms considering adoption contact our agency, then the agency spends time with them, counsels them, learns about their life etc. Then their situation will be compared with the criteria we provided and the agency will deliver our profile to those where a good match is determined.
{Our criteria is extremely open, there are not many situations we wouldn't consider. But, for example purposes, maybe a family is uncomfortable adopting a child who is more than 4 weeks premature, their profile would not be shared with a mom who just delivered a 6 week premature baby}
Then the birthmom will review all the profiles that have been presented to her and she will make the overwhelmingly impossible choice about which family seems like the best fit.
It seems like it has taken us a lifetime to get to this point. We started actively working toward adopting last March (although we've been talking about it for years), then walked the dark road of a failed adoption, which was followed by a few months of emotional recovery. Then we chose an agency, waited for approval, went to our first classes, put everything on hold while we moved, and now -- we're actually approaching the finish line!
I can't wait to share the next steps with you. I can't wait to live the next steps!
Please pray for us as we wait. I have a feeling it will be a difficult part of this journey.
Rant over, just wanted to put that out there.
If nothing else, maybe I'll re-read that someday when we're going through this again and remember to relax!
****
Last night was great!!
Rachel, our social worker, came in the evening and went over some paperwork, toured our home, asked and answered some questions and then told us that all we have left to do now is send in the hard copies of our profile (our agency asks for 30 copies) with another check and we will be officially-for-real-no-more-hoops "circulating"!!!
Circulating is another way of saying "on the list".
Here's how it works:
Birthmoms considering adoption contact our agency, then the agency spends time with them, counsels them, learns about their life etc. Then their situation will be compared with the criteria we provided and the agency will deliver our profile to those where a good match is determined.
{Our criteria is extremely open, there are not many situations we wouldn't consider. But, for example purposes, maybe a family is uncomfortable adopting a child who is more than 4 weeks premature, their profile would not be shared with a mom who just delivered a 6 week premature baby}
Then the birthmom will review all the profiles that have been presented to her and she will make the overwhelmingly impossible choice about which family seems like the best fit.
It seems like it has taken us a lifetime to get to this point. We started actively working toward adopting last March (although we've been talking about it for years), then walked the dark road of a failed adoption, which was followed by a few months of emotional recovery. Then we chose an agency, waited for approval, went to our first classes, put everything on hold while we moved, and now -- we're actually approaching the finish line!
I can't wait to share the next steps with you. I can't wait to live the next steps!
Please pray for us as we wait. I have a feeling it will be a difficult part of this journey.
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